Comments on: Ten Tips for Keeping your Relationship Healthy when you work in High Performance Sport

By: Wayne Goldsmith

Wayne Goldsmith — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 06:53:47 +0000

Hi Lena,

I think that’s a great idea for an article.

Because our lives are usually “the story of me” and we are so excited about telling our partners what we are doing, I think we rarely really engage them in their own terms.

So the trick is allowing them to define your business from their own vantage point and engage with it their way.

Or if you like, the way NOT to do it is to try and educate them about your business and force them to get involved in the same you would do it with a trainee or new employee.

Your career is like having your first baby. You are so excited and enthusiastic, that you can’t believe everyone isn’t feeling the same way you are.
To you – the “baby” is what gives you life and passion and enjoyment. To everyone else – it is just a job.

Also, I believe the more you want it to happen, the less likely it is to happen. Provide some opportunities for your partner to get involved but allow them the space and time to engage in your industry by their own rules.

Thanks – really enjoyed your comment,

By: Lena

Lena — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 03:48:26 +0000

Hi Wayne,

Great article and applicable to all passionate professionals who travel for work, regardless of industry. I would love to see a follow up article exploring the appropriate ways to engage your partner in the details of professional life.

Kind regards,

Lena

By: Wayne Goldsmith

Wayne Goldsmith — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 00:27:35 +0000

Thanks guys.

We all love what we do but forget why we are doing it sometimes.

Most people are looking for:

Something to be passionate about doing;
Living where they enjoy living;
Living with people they love to be with.

I hope this article saves a few marriages and relationships.

By: Brian Stephens

Brian Stephens — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:47:09 +0000

Thanks Wayne
I always enjoy your blogs and this one is no exception. Family life is one of the most neglected but important areas for a coaches well being. I know some great coaches whos private life is a mess. These tips would go a long way to improving many of our lives.

Brian Stephens

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:49:25 +0000

Hi, Wayne

You make a lot of sense with this. Although I do not work at the very top, I still have to go away from home from time to time. Every time I go away I would like to take my wife with me but it is not always posible. When I am away from home, I call my wife regularly (and sometimes irregularly!!!) and I always ask her how her day has been and my day comes second. I am very lucky to have the wife I have and she is the most important thing in my world. She is also involved in swimming and does want to hear how our swimmers have performed but she always comes first and I can’t wait to get back to her, she makes it all worth while.

Keep up the good work.

Best regards

Brian